Hello Susan,

I hope you have not received a similar letter to this one already - I have an account with another server, but it seems to have stopped working. My apologies if this letter is a repeat.

Ashleigh has shown me the emails and letter between you and him in your newsletter ('A Submissive in Satin'), and the part where you asked if I would say something as his wife. Well, here goes.

Ashleigh and I met about four and a half years ago, and got married a little over three years ago. He has always been quite gentle - which after my previous abusive husband, and domineering father, I much appreciated - but to begin with we were very "vanilla".

A few months after we married, I found him trying on one of my lehanga cholis (an Indian skirt - I am from an Asian background and family), and I was at first very shocked. I wondered if he was gay, or wanted to be a woman, but he was adamant he was straight and that he loved me - the latter I never doubted. I thought about it, we talked, and I read about submissive men in books and on the internet. I realised that I wear trousers often, and yet I am not a lesbian, so it might be ok for him to be in a skirt. But, I decided not to indulge him - I saw a chance for us both to be fulfilled; him to be submissive, me to feel at last in control of my life and relationship fully.

So I said if he would submit to my governance, it had to be all the time, not just when he feels like it. He agreed after a while - I did not want him thinking he could 'blow hot and cold' and leave me even more confused.

So we have rules now - he wears skirts and dresses at home six days a week; Friday is a day off (usually just an evening - he dresses normally at work, on the outside anyway). I like him in fussy clothes, like Victorian ruffles and things, or Indian wedding dresses, so it is awkward for him when he is doing the housework - he has been very uncomfortable the last few weeks in this warm weather. His underwear is also very fussy and frothy. I still do the ironing (he is no good at this), but he does everything else. I get pampered and called 'Mistress'. I love it! I think perhaps the rules and housework and petticoat punishments are, for him, a relief from his job - he is a senior manager; for me, a lawyer, they let me be the judge!

I have got him to wear a satin chastity tube - it stops him having erections.  Again, he often gets a day off each week (but not sex), but I have had him with it on full-time for the last six and a half weeks. He will be allowed some sort of release on 14 July, but I have yet to finally decide. He has to make me happy, and I feel very in charge of all aspects of our marriage.

I feel very in charge and he has learned to pleasure me well, so I am satisfied and happy. He has had no sexual relief since Christmas. I like to see him frustrated, and when I spank him his face is so cute.  I like to bind him up and watch him struggle sometimes - I can feel guilty at times, but I remember he asked for this, and we are both content in this relationship.

I love him very much and from time to time I have him be the way he was before for a week, or even a month. I do not want him not to be the man I fell in love with, and when we have children, maybe in four or five years, things will have to change in some ways, but in the meantime, I am very happy with my man, especially when he is dressed in his skirt and at my feet, adoring me and kissing my toes.

Your newsletter is very good. Three years ago, I would never have imagined myself looking at it; but now I think it is wonderful.
Deepa (Leeds)

P.S. If you would like anything else, please let me know. Thank you.

Definitely keep us informed; you seem to have managed things very well. Chastity is a very effective way of creating a loving, submissive male partner. However, there must be somebody nearby who is good at ironing - couldn't you get the woman from the local launderette to give him lessons? I think that this 'Men don't do ironing' nonsense has gone much too far.
Susan