After reading Kate's letter in Madame Vol 12 No 9 I thought I must write to you to relate my own experiences of using nappy discipline. I hope that you publish my letter as well, as it may help other mothers who are thinking of using this form of home discipline.

My 20 year old son is now kept in nappies permanently, and is strictly governed by his sister Mandy, who is two years older than Andrew. He has now been in nappies since he was 13, when he was getting much too 'big for his boots', and I decided it was the only way to control him.

It started one summer evening when Andrew had been sent to bed early. I had things prepared, and I sent Mandy to get the things that I had bought for him that day, while I waited in his bedroom. Mandy returned holding a nappy and plastic pants in one hand, and a strap in the other. Mandy then stripped him and watched as I put him over my lap and gave him a good spanking with the strap. I then put him on a plastic changing mat on his bed, and smoothed nappy cream into his sore bottom, and then pinned him into a terry nappy and liner.

Mandy then passed me his plastic pants and as I put them round his ankles and started to pull them up his legs he began to squirm but stopped when Mandy threatened with a session over her lap, so the plastic pants were pulled on snugly over his nappy. Then Mandy produced a dummy which she put in his mouth and when I put his pyjamas on over his nappy and plastic pants. I attached a length of ribbon to his dummy, and using a nappy pin pinned the ribbon to his pyjama top. He was told he would not be allowed to use the toilet, and must use his nappy, and that he must keep his dummy in. Mandy then put him to bed.

In the morning Mandy went to his bedroom at 8 o’clock to change his nappy and get him up, only to find his nappy was still dry. Mandy came and told me and I said she should smack him for not using his nappy. Mandy loved the idea so I got him out of bed and took his pyjamas off and pulled his plastic pants and nappy down to his knees. He was then put back in his nappy and plastic pants and dressed In a girl’s vest a frilly embroidered blouse, with bloomered rompers which showed off his plastic pants and nappy. He also still had to use his dummy which was now pinned to his blouse. By dinner time he had a wet nappy. As a special treat Mandy sometimes dresses him in a very short dress and babies’ slip, again showing off his nappy state very well.

He is kept in nappies all the time now and Mandy normally looks after him. He appears in front of our visitors, and Mandy’s friends, in nappies and plastic pants, and some of them tease him about it. Mandy gives him a bottle feed if she puts him to bed early but normally he goes at 7 to 7.30. Mandy also gives him a meal of tinned baby food sometimes, which she spoon feeds him from a plastic bowl and he uses a terry and plastic bib with ‘Baby’ printed on the front. Mandy likes to do this in front of some of her girlfriends who sometimes take it in turn feeding him, which embarrasses him terribly.

His behaviour is now much improved, but he still gets a spanking from Mandy about twice a week. He uses his nappy one day a week, to remind him what a baby he is, and thank goodness for plastic pants. We have a nappy bucket and he launders his own nappies. I have thought of using a potty, maybe I’ll try it sometime. He only moans about wearing nappies and plastic pants in summer when he says it is too hot for plastic knickers but as Mandy says you can’t leave a baby without plastic knickers on over his nappy can you? His moaning doesn’t last long as Mandy spanks him if it does.

I would recommend this form of discipline to any mother/mistress with an unruly husband/baby.

Angela