These two letters refer to an 'Advice' letter that I published in the July issue. I will reproduce the original letter and reply, and then give the comments from Toni and Marion. 

I really love your site, it is the best on the web.  I am 35 years old, married for five years, and my wife is now 30 years old.  I have always been interested in petticoat discipline and humiliation.  I have slowly introduced my wife to this over time and she has become a willing 'mommy' to me. At first she thought the idea was crazy, but now she enjoys being in charge and being able to do as she wants and have me serve her.  It has been great for me too.

Recently, however, she has introduced something I really don't like.  She has taken to making me go to bed at 7 or 8 pm, and she makes me change into little boy pajamas or a night dress at 6 pm.  She teases me about this, and I hate it. I wonder if other males are treated this way?  Oh, by the way, my name is Steve, but she has taken to calling me 'Stephanie' lately.
Steve

Of course other husbands are treated like that, and so they should be. It makes a lot more sense than going down to the local. Please give your wife my warmest congratulations, she is doing a very good job, and please tell her to keep popping you into nighties or little girl (rather than boy) pyjamas at 6 o'clock, and making sure you are tucked up in bed nice and early. And of course she can tease you if it is fun for her.

Do you have a teddy bear that you can take to bed with you? 

I felt that I had to write in response to a letter from Steve. Judy was quite incensed by it.

She felt that he was attempting to dictate to his wife how his petticoating should be handled.  I understand that they are just starting out along this road, but I feel that perhaps he is not seeing the reality of his position. Does he want an occasional role play with set rules, or does he genuinely seek control by his wife? If complete control is what he seeks, then he is overstepping his mark in questioning her decisions. If she has decided that he goes to bed early, then it is his place to comply. Perhaps he does not like it, but as a petticoated subject of his wife, he must put up with things that he does not like - we all do. Most of us enjoy being controlled by our wives/mistresses, but we have to accept the bad bits too. Giving yourself totally to your wife's control means precisely that. This is not a scenario game we play, it is a lifestyle, and a lifestyle that is dictated by your mistress's needs and not your own.  Mistress ALWAYS comes first.

Judy has always used the early bed as a tool of control and reminder. Sometimes it is a disciplinary measure, but usually she sends me to bed simply because she can, and I am fully aware that she will come and check that I am actually in bed. I accept her right to do this to me although I do not much care for it. I will give two examples, both involving the same person.

It was a sunny summer evening a year ago and we were sat in the garden talking to a lady friend of Judy's. At about 8pm Judy suddenly said to me in front of her visitor that it was my bed time.  I was hugely embarrassed and humiliated, but I had no choice but to give Mistress a peck on the cheek and go to bed. My room overlooks the garden. It was a lovely evening, but the room was stuffy and the window was open. I could hear them talking and pouring the wine they had got out. I further heard Judy tell her friend that I was totally obedient to her. I had changed into a nightie for bed and heard Judy enter the house and shot into bed lest she find me still up. She did check and then went down to the garden again, where they resumed talking and laughing and generally having a good time. It is a torture to be in bed while it is sunny and nice things are happening outside your window.

The second incident happened only a few weeks ago during a warm few days. Judy was in the garden with the same friend, while I was in the kitchen finishing the washing up. Judy came in and told me to go and get ready for bed. I was to put in a short nightie with knickers, and a bath robe over the top. I was then allowed then sit with them for a half hour before bed. I duly obeyed, making sure that the robe was tightly done up with no nightie showing. Again I was acutely embarrassed and was sure that glimpses of nightie were peeking out, it was not, and I was also worried that my knickers could be seen, but they could not. It was a very long half hour and a relief when bed time came. The friend obviously enjoyed my predicament.

The point of these two stories is that I love to serve Judy, and feel warm and secure. If the price is occasional humiliation and embarrassment for Judy's entertainment while doing something that I do not like, then it is a small price to pay. If your mistress is not in the position where she can do exactly what she wants with you, when she wants, then it is really you that is in control, and after all the point of our lifestyle is for me to be controlled by Mistress.  I would also point out that I would not dare write a letter such as Steve wrote. I have to assume that his wife had no foreknowledge of the letter, as I feel sure she would have stopped him. Aside from being an act of bad manners, it is also a direct challenge to her authority.

It has been a hot day today and I have had a day off work to assist Judy in the garden. I have been wearing thick school knickers and vest, under gardening trousers all day, and am now very hot and sticky. I must end this letter as I have to go for a bath and then am being sent to bed early as Mistress has a couple of visitors in the garden tonight and she wants me safely tucked in.  At least I get to wear a light nightie and knickers tonight.
So, Steve, take your medicine like a good boy.
Your servant Ma'am
Toni 

I am Marion Cooper, mistress and wife of David. I would like to respond to a letter that has appeared in your latest issue. I know that David has already sent a letter today, but to be fair he was not aware that I wished to write as well.

I found the letter from 'Stephanie' quite staggering. This boy, I shall not call him a man, wished for petticoat control from his lovely understanding wife and then complains when she takes control and introduces something that he 'does not like'. Well that is tough. Cherry-picking scenarios are not an option if his Mistress is to be in charge. He must take the rough with the smooth. If she decides that he is to go to bed early, like a little baby, then that is how it is.

My David has been under my control since we married and I introduced the early bed-time from the start. He had at least one early night every week and still does. It is a principle of discipline. Indeed when the children were small David was made ready for bed along with the children. In those days he wore a male nightshirt, for the sake of the children, and he might have to get up to them in the night, but with panties underneath. He would then be packed off to bed at the same time. He found it humiliating but it was not up for discussion. Not only ready for bed, but drinking his cocoa along with them. It is a 7pm bed-time and he knows better than to come down stairs once tucked in. It has now become ingrained within him to the point that if I decide on extra early nights he obeys without demur.

I was a schoolteacher for some years before I went into administration, and came across any number of sulky boys like Stephanie, and his Mistress must take a firm hand, because such boys need taking down a few pegs. She should decree an early bed-time for a month. Ideally he should have his little peter restrained, and his hand movement restricted. Should he be a baby about it, then a diaper may be an option. If he refuses then she should withdraw any aspects of petticoating that he likes, and by now he is probably addicted to some facets, until he comes to heel, and he will. His mistress already has a degree of control, and should exploit this until he is totally obedient. If this boy really desires his mistress to be in control then he will submit. Training a male is much like training a child, and similar psychology must be employed. Children fear real disapproval more than they fear physical punishment. A child ignored will do whatever you wish to be approved of, and the submissive male is exactly the same.

Thats it, I have been on my soapbox and got it off my chest. I trust there will be no more silliness from Stephanie, who should knuckle down and obey his mistress. His life will be better in the long run.
Marion Cooper

Yes I agree with you both of you. Training a male is very like training a child, as my female readers know, and that is why petticoating and baby discipline are so wonderfully appropriate in training husbands and sons. Marion finishes on the right note - Stephanie's life will be better if she can only understand that he must submit to his wife's control if the household is to be a really happy and fulfilling one.
Susan