The nicest letter published this month is Letter 3, 'My Wife 'Wears the Trousers'. In it, Charles writes, 'Soon after I was married my wife had noticed that I had a marked interest in her undies. I had no cross dressing practices, but there must have been something dormant within me. When she suggested that I wear a pair of her panties in the bedroom I jumped at the chance...'

Of course men usually find pretty panties and other 'underneaths' very exciting, but they are not usually given to discussing them in detail. Perhaps if you tried what Charles did, and showed a real interest in their materials and design, and admiration for how nice the material felt, and in a happy, enthusiastic fashion, then it is possible that your partner might lovingly suggest what Charles' wife suggested. At least it might lead to further talks.

But carefully note what Charles also writes: 'This 'role reversal' in our marriage took about two years [I think] to mature fully'. This points to something that was mentioned in the Christmas Annual - do not be pushy or impatient, it needs time. If you would love to be dressed in little girl clothes, I would start with discussing more 'grown-up' undies. You need to proceed a step at a time.

There is a scene in Jane Austen's gothick novel satire, 'Northanger Abbey', in which a male character discusses fabrics and feminine clothing with real knowledge and enthusiasm, and the women are charmed. Of course Jane Austen was a brilliant comic novelist, and this is only fiction, but it might be worth looking at:

Chapter 3:

They were interrupted by Mrs. Allen: "My dear Catherine," said she, "do take this pin out of my sleeve; I am afraid it has torn a hole already; I shall be quite sorry if it has, for this is a favourite gown, though it cost but nine shillings a yard."

"That is exactly what I should have guessed it, madam," said Mr. Tilney, looking at the muslin.

"Do you understand muslins, sir?"

"Particularly well; I always buy my own cravats, and am allowed to be an excellent judge; and my sister has often trusted me in the choice of a gown. I bought one for her the other day, and it was pronounced to be a prodigious bargain by every lady who saw it. I gave but five shillings a yard for it, and a true Indian muslin."

Mrs. Allen was quite struck by his genius. "Men commonly take so little notice of those things," said she; "I can never get Mr. Allen to know one of my gowns from another. You must be a great comfort to your sister, sir."

"I hope I am, madam."

"And pray, sir, what do you think of Miss Morland's gown?"

"It is very pretty, madam," said he, gravely examining it; "but I do not think it will wash well; I am afraid it will fray."

"How can you," said Catherine, laughing, "be so - ?" She had almost said, "strange."

"I am quite of your opinion, sir," replied Mrs. Allen; "and so I told Miss Morland when she bought it."

If you show a genuine interest in feminine clothing (I mean not just wanting to wear it), then that might take you a long way towards acceptance. When your partner is wearing a new dress or blouse, or even a new pair of pantyhose of a colour she has not worn before, do you notice it, and compliment her?