Dear Susan,

Firstly let me congratulate you on creating such an excellent resource on the subject of petticoating. I would not be overstating if I said it had been something of a revelation to me, and the many informative, sensible articles and letters have been deeply educational to me.

It will help if I introduce myself before I say anything else. Presently I am a young man rapidly approaching his twentieth birthday who, until very recently, had not even heard of petticoating. However, since a chance encounter with your magazine, I have become deeply fascinated by the subject. Years ago I developed a natural fondness for petticoats, Victorian style dresses, corsetry, and frilly underwear, but never found the opportunity to wear such clothing. As I matured my fondness faded away to the point where I started to view it as almost perverted. Cross-dressing became to me an idle indulgence, and something I should not waste my time upon. But all has changed since I discovered petticoating!

Petticoating has much more substance than mere cross-dressing to me. It is practical, useful and appears to promote many of the conservative ideals I personally admire. It is not about sexual gratification, far from it in fact, and despite its unorthodox means, appears to have created many stable marriages and relationships. With this in mind, I have decided to follow my instincts on this one, and commit to a life of petticoating. Unfortunately being a single young man who still lives at home with his very disapproving mother, I have very little privacy or means at hand to begin my self-discipline. With that in mind, I have a few questions I would be very grateful if you could answer for me.

Is it wrong for me, a male, to enjoy petticoating in principle? Naturally I have not experienced it yet, so I cannot say if I will in practice (and I’m sure there are certain parts of it that I certainly will not), but from an outsider's point of view it sounds appealing. Will this hinder my attempt to become a demure, submissive, and respectful bachelor or husband - bearing in mind I actually want to become one? Is petticoating all about breaking a man’s untamed will?

Do you, or any of your readers, have any suggestions for a lifestyle program that I may secretly implement in order to give myself at least a basic grounding in petticoating? This subject is very new to me, and presently I’m not at all sure where to begin. If I really am going to be the person I want to be, I’m concerned that ignoring petticoat discipline until I can find a suitable partner may mean that my petticoating, and my consequent personality change, is put on the shelf for many years to come.

Is there a type of feminine underwear that I can easily purchase which would greatly hinder or complicate my wayward sexual desires? In my opinion sexual release is a gift that is to be given only to my wife, but sadly that’s something easier said then done! Naturally I would still need to be independent when it comes to using the toilet, but if the underwear makes this a far more deliberate experience than so be it (perhaps it would encourage me to use the toilet as a woman would?). Any ideas would be appreciated.

Do you think it would be a complete waste of time to eventually try and seek lodgings with a landlady or family who would be willing to properly train me to be an obedient, prim and proper “lady”, provided, of course, that I pay my way in full? Are the chances of me finding someone with an opening too remote to even try looking?

Once again, thank you for giving your time and attention to my questions. I hope everything is well with you and that your magazine continues to be successful.
God bless,
S.E.M.

I do think that looking for a landlady or a family who would keep you in petticoats is not really something where you would find success, so I would not pursue that direction. Of course you want a loving partner who is happy to keep you under petticoat discipline, and can appreciate its benefits. You need to look for somebody cheerful and warm-hearted, and easy going and toerant enough to accept what may seem like a strange idea at first.

In the meantime, tights, pretty knickers, a pantie-girdle and a frilly feminine vest should give you that lovely feeling of femininity and restraint.
 

Dear Miss Susan,

Recently my wife's friend Maureen was over for dinner, which I had cooked and served to them. Jennifer likes to be bossy in front of
Maureen, and chastised me for not wearing an apron. After their dinner I served them drinks, and Maureen commented that she
wished she had a maid like me. Jennifer told her about the maid's uniform she has me wear, and my total obedience to her. Maureen told me that I was her idea of a "perfect husband."

Since this time, Maureen has been a guest of Jennifer's for dinner twice while I wore my complete uniform and makeup. Jennifer will be attending a conference in March, and has asked me to stay at Maureen's home while she is gone. I want to follow Jennifer's wishes but I am scared of being found out by Jennifer and Maureen's other friends.
Thank you,
Sissy Carly

It is a very important and sensitive question. It sounds like you and your wife both benefit from a marriage involving petticoat discipline, and a close female friend might join in the fun, and see what a perfect husband you are. But I do not think it should go any further; I believe that you are absolutely right there. You need to discuss it with your wife, and ensure that if you are to be Mareen's housemaid while your wife is away, then it will go no further than that. You certainly have rights that should not be trespassed, and if your wife loves you she must understand that. 

Dear Susan,

Having seen the petticoat poster that Janet put up, number two, with the stiff, white, rustling 50s style petticoat, I would like to ask where such a petticoat could be bought, and what would be the cost? The photo seems to have been cut out so that that information cannot be seen.

Are most women aroused by those lovely paper nylon 50s rustling petticoats, and full taffeta skirt rustles, when they wear them, and do they get excited by bolts of top quality dress taffeta making that lovely screaming sound when one is pulled out, on the shelf in the shop, rubbing against the others?
Yours sincerely,
David B. 


Can you kindly reply direct on my e mail address, and if not I will read the reply on the site. Thank you.

No, I don't think that women get excited by all that taffeta rustling and screaming. The intention was to make males excited, and getting a nice rustle from one's petticoats was part of what used to be called 'skirt flirting', an art which has sadly long vanished. Hopefully Janet will see this question and answer it.

Have you tried ebay for rustling, screaming taffeta petticoats and frocks? 

Hello,

I am a divorced mother of a son who is 15 years and he keeps trying on all of my lingerie when I am not around. I know this because my girlfriend says he has told her about it, and even shown her a few times. I was reading a couple of the letters on your site, and I was very interested. If you have any suggestions of humiliation, or punishment, could you please get back to me? I would appreciate it so much.
Thank you,
An angry mother

It doesn't sound very likely that your son would tell a friend of his mother's about something like that. Why be angry? Buy some nice girls' undies, the frilliest you can find, and put them in his bottom drawer, saying they are just in case any female friends or relatives stay. Your son will appreciate your thoughtfulness a great deal. There is no need to punish him for feelings that he can't help, and which I can assure you are not going to go away.

Dear Nanny Susan,
 
I wonder if you feel petticoat discipline should be administered in stages or should mothers, aunts, girlfriends etc. use full dress straight away?
 
I myself was disciplined by my mother, from about four years old until I was twelve, using a range of girls' clothes. But from the onset, she would sometimes just put me into a vest and knickers, or leave my boys' shirt or sweater on, but remove shorts or trousers and underpants and then administer what she called a 'knickering'.

This involved me standing close to her while she sat on a chair. Then I would have to hold up my top clothes to keep them clear. As I did this she would make me admit I had been a  naughty boy, and deserved to be '' put into little girlies' knickers''. Other terms used were ''pretty knick-knicks'', ''baby girl knickers'', ''toddlers' knickers'', and even the mortifying ''ickle girly-wurlies' pwetty knickerth'' if she felt I had behaved childishly. Needless to say having to repeat this was quite a task for a boy to do in front of his mother.

Having completed the request to her satisfaction, I would then step into the knickers which she held open for me, and turn with my back to her while they were slowly pulled up. I always felt this was the most effective part of these punishments because it made
me feel so silly and ashamed being dressed by my mother like a little child. Frequently I would start crying while the knickers were pulled up to the accompaniment of, ''Now then you naughty little boy, let's have your knickers up...come along...up they come, up they come''.
 
Some of these punishments were accompanied with a spanking, but sometimes just the ritual and having to go about the house with the knickers on display was enough for my mother - and me. As I got older I seemed to receive more full petticoating, but knickering was still an occasional threat. Do you feel this can be an effective method on its own? I will write again and explain more of my experiences, and how I gradually came to see the benefit of petticoating, and even to enjoy it to some extent at the time.
Regards,
Dominic

Yes, just wearing frilly little girl undies can be quite effective; you certainly don't have to petticoat fully, which can be very expensive unless there is an older or twin sister in the family. One of the letters on the site - it was printed some time ago - desribed how a son was disciplined by wearing long ruffled girls' drawers which showed under his shorts. That was as far as it went, but the effect was overwhelming, and a complete cure for any naughtiness that he had in mind. 

Dear Susan,

Mother and I have got a kilt for my hubby, but there is no underwear for it, and we wonder what he should wear, and as we live in the
south there are no other kilt wearers near us. Mother was brought up in Scotland: she wore a kilt to her first school, and it was given to the boy next door, including knickers and petticoats.  Of course many pairs of her pants had frills, but she knew that he had to wear everything, as she saw up his kilt when they played.

Her family moved house, and then contact was lost. Can you help us please? Can a man wear ladies' knickers every day for the rest of his life, as we are trying to get him to do? Should he wear an underskirt? He is trying to get out of wearing his kilt by saying that he is worried about having cold knees in the winter, so should he wear nylon stockings and a suspender belt? If he ought to wear knickers can you suggest a supplier, as our local shops have only very small modern knickers. We just want him to be warm and happy.
Thanking you,
Mary and Jean

In Scotland in the past when a boy was presented with a kilt by his mother or another female relative, it usually meant a petticoat and frilly knickers as part of the present. Little boys would dread the thought that a doting aunt or grandmother would give them a kilt set one Christmas or birthday.

If your husband is concerned about feeling cold in his kilt, then by all means he should wear a flannel petticoat and stockings, and properly waisted knickers can be bought in larger stores, or from some of the sites that I have links to. It sounds like his protests have little chance of success against you two!