I am a self-confessed, overbearing, dominant male - a typical military officer type - you would assume I was a company director or similar if you met me.  I also admit I have treated my wife with less equality than she deserves.

On the other side of the coin, I am totally transfixed by all the talk of women being dominant, and demanding that their men act and dress in a sissy role.  I have occasionally sneaked into my wife's clothing when she was out of the house, but as far as I know there is no suspicion about my frailty.

I do spend time reading material on sites such as yours, and wondering how I can test my wife's reaction to this fetish without risking a horrible backlash.  To be humiliated and ridiculed is very thrilling, but to lose her love and respect would be a true and total disaster.

What can I do?  Is this something you might advise me about?  If I get no reply then I will assume you have no interest in my situation.  If you do reply, and if you would like more information, then I would be happy to promise you 100% honesty and sincerity.
M.

There is no simple answer to your question, which is one that I am often asked by readers of 'Petticoat Discipline Monthly'. Perhaps you could say to your wife that you would find it relaxing, and a great way of relieving stress, if you could do some housework on the weekend, such as laundry, ironing and so on, while she assumed the role of the 'head of the household'. You could wait on her, and see how she reacts for a half day or so.

If you talk about it, you need to explain that you found it very beneficial, and that it made you feel much happier less tense, and that perhaps you could do the same thing again in the near future. You might hint that it would be even better if you could wear an apron, because you would be relieved of being a 'leadership' male for a while. But emphasise that you need these periods to relieve the stress of feeling that you have to be in a leadership position all the time: however, you can be a strong leader when you have to be.

You have to take it slowly - that has been stressed in these pages over and over and over again. 

Dear Susan,

I just want to tell you how much I love your intellingent and witty website. It is a great source of information and comfort. Too many sites on the web treat the topic of feminisation in a sleazy, 'We're in it for a quick buck (or pound)' mode, and seem to have no respect for their core audience.

As a young man who is starting to explore the superior world of femininity I was wondering if you had any basic fashion tips (short skirts as opposed to long, do you recommend tights or pantyhose?)

Nanny Susan, do you think that most women are as wise as you, in the sense that they can truly appreciate a feminised male?

I thank you very much for your kind attention to my queries. I eagerly await your response.
Sincerely yours,
Linda

You know I get quite a few letters from readers who do nothing but complain that the current issue is late, and why can't I publish more letters about their favourite subject, and that the letters are not as detailed as they used to be, and so on. In all these cases the correspondent has never contributed anything to the magazine at all, not even a comma. They are extraordinarily selfish.

I also have a core readership (many of whom work on the staff here at petticoated.com) who are always ready to contribute, who send me old letters and articles of general interest, who are solicitous and caring, and generously offer all help that they can, if I seem to be under pressure and an edition is late. These are my special friends at the magazine, and I believe that their wives or partners are very fortunate.

Now it is likely that both these groups of readers are thrilled by the thought of feminisation. But if you were a woman, who would you like to be married to? The generous, caring and unselfish group I bet. There are more important qualities for a woman to look for in a man than just a liking for being submissive and sissy. If you are a really good person; loving, sensitive, willing to share your partner's interests, helpful and generous, then your partner will probably make every effort to understand and to make allowance for your needs too.  

Hello, I am a boy who was petticoat disciplined (stockings, panties, dresses, and slips) at a very young age (four or younger) by my sister, who did it to me while my mom never knew. But when my sister told me about it  a couple of years ago, I realized that I have had an urge to dress in girls' clothes for quite a while. I would also kind of like to try corsets, but my mom doesn't know anything about this, except about what my sister did to me when I was young. So, what I am asking is, if you can e-mail my mom and tell her about your site, and the advantages of your discipline, and about corsets and places to get them. But please don't tell her I sent this to you. I am 13 years old, and my mom's email is xxxx. Thank you for your time.
Your fateful reader,
Clayton M.

P.S. Great site, I really like it.

I think your mother would get one hell of a surprise if a letter from me turned up in her mailbox. And she would naturally wonder how I came to send it. She would probably blame your sister, quite unfairly. And you are too young for corsets. If your sister liked to dress you up as a girl then I would explain to her that you want to dress that way at times again, and she should understand and lend you some of her clothes while your mother is out. She would probably be more understanding of these needs than your mother.
 

Dear Nanny Susan,

Having just read your August issue I was very interested in the article entitled 'Messy Babies Need Bibs' .When I was about 10 years old I used to have to wear a napkin tucked into my shirt front when I ate.One Sunday at breakfast I was dressed in my best clothes ready for Sunday School. For a reason I don't remember, I didnt have a napkin on, and I spilt some food down my front.

My mother noticed and made me get her apron from the kitchen drawer,  which she tied in bib fashion around my neck, saying, 'You will wear this for every meal, until you learn to keep yourself clean'. I was very humiliated and embarrassed by this, but i was a lot more careful from then on. The point of this is, my son is eleven years old, and continually spilling food on himself. My wife and I have threatened to buy him a baby's bib if he doesn't take more care, but he takes no notice.Should we get him a baby's bib, or perhaps make him wear an apron like I used to?  Your views would be much appreciated.
Yours sincerely,
Peter

I think that for best protection a very full flounced pinafore, which can be well starched and looks very sweet, is unbeatable. A frilly bib is very nice and does have a most favourable effect on messy little boys, but it does not offer the complete protection of an old-fashioned girls' pinny.

I don't think dummies in public are a good idea. You should keep baby discipline within the domestic environment where it belongs. But salutary humiliation can be carried out in public - why not take your husband on a shopping expedition, where he has to buy his own undies, and together you can buy him a few flouncy aprons which you can hold against him in the shop to see how they will look. And a visit to the chemist's of course, where he will have to buy some tins of powdered baby milk, a rubber nippled bottle, and, of course, a dummy. You will enjoy the moment when the young girl serving asks him what colour he would like. 

Dear Nanny Susan,
I love your entire site, as it reminds me of when I was a child!  My aunt and my two female cousins used to dress me in girls' clothing...what is more, they still treat me like a girl.  I must dress for them when they come to visit.  Anyway; I wrote to tell you that I love the letters and the posters, and my question is: why don't mothers dress their sons as daughters, as they used to do in the 1800's?  they could they train the males as to who is the superior sex!  I guess that I'm asking why don't all mothers do this?  Please let me know ...with many thanks, and keep the spankings going please?
Janelle

Well, many of my readers would be moved to ask, 'Why don't mothers dress their daughters as daughters?' It is a pity that pretty girls' clothes and undies seem to have fallen out of favour when mothers dress their children of either sex, and the results of such a policy have been regrettable to say the least. Petticoats, and ribbons and bows, kept girls very demure, and when boys were put under petticoat discipline they soon learned to be docile and obedient to the wishes of those girls. The results were good for both sexes whenever petticoat rule was established in the home.

It is amazing how often you hear people complain at length about the breakdown of society's values and order, and then you look at how they are dressing their children..!!