I'm a very successful 30 year old woman from the States.  Sometimes it is difficult for a successful woman to meet and attract men, (their egos are so fragile, the little dears!)  Anyway, I knew my husband was a bit of a pantywaist even when I met him, but he was cute and helpful and quickly fell in love with me.

Over time my forceful personality (and his lack of ambition and lack of money or job) caused a reversal in the 'normal' roles in our household.  I won't bore you with the details, but soon he was doing all the housework and cooking and waiting on me like a servant at night.   Then I caught him wearing my panties!  Well, if THAT'S what he wants…so, suffice to say the little sissy now wears a proper little maid's uniform while doing  'her' housework and other chores.
 
About this time my attraction for my husband (never a strong attraction, physically) went to zero.  Oh, he's kind of cute in his panties and frills, but not exactly what a girl would be interested in man-wise.  I quickly grew tired of him coming to bed in little panties, a pink girl's T-shirt and (sometimes) even curlers in his hair!  So, I kicked him out of the master bedroom and for months now he has slept in a small room down the hall (referred to by me as the 'Maid's Room'.)

Here's my question: I am finding myself more and more attracted to the virile and successful men I meet at the office.  I flirt with them, and two of them have begun asking me out.  So far I have only had after-work drinks (and more flirting!) with them.  But I frankly now want more -- MUCH more. Remember, my 'man' at home is now little more than a simpering, meek maid-servant, who wears panties every day and even sits when 'she' goes to the loo.

I have brought up the subject of dating these men to my husband/maid, and he just pouts and cries.  But I am a healthy young woman with the normal desires for masculine (not sissy) companionship.  And the other side of my big bed is empty now that little 'Sissy Pants' is tucked into his cute little single bed down the hall.

I know I should divorce first -- and perhaps I will.  But how would you proceed in this situation?  I want to somehow keep my helpful little 'maid', but also have a real man in my bed. I also want you to know there is NO WAY AT ALL that I can ever go back to seeing my sissy husband as a man, or as any kind of romantic interest for me.  I have lost the kind of respect a woman feels for a virile man.  And though I don't mistreat the meek little sissy, I really only view 'her' as my servant now, whose life revolves around doing my laundry, ironing, scrubbing floors, cleaning bathrooms and all the rest (not exactly the types of interests I see as 'manly'.)
What do I do?

Frustrated Executive in Maryland, U.S.A.

'I won't bore you with the details'?? It is precisely those details that 'Petticoat Discipline Monthly' is so concerned with. You amaze me.

I can't really be of any help, because I find 'real' men boring and ridiculously conceited - which is probably why I am a spinster. Give me the more 'cissy' type of man anytime, their love is much more lasting. But I doubt if it would be possible to retain your husband and take a lover as well.

It is a great pity that more women do not appreciate the estimable virtues of submissive husbands. I have published this letter because I have received others like it over the past year, and I would like to make it clear that although I support divorce in the case of a genuinely unhappy marriage, I do not condone unfaithfulness. Your husband deserves better than that. Actually, I think it is highly unlikely that, in the first place, you would marry somebody with no money and no job, and I bet your husband is more successful than you say. Most husbands who are submissive at home actually have very successful careers.
Susan

Dennis

They do? I hadn't really noticed. But if the girl is dressed like the boy, then surely the boy is dressed like the girl. There is a mathematical symbol for the equivilance, with arrow heads pointing in both directions I believe.  I think, and always have thought, that the idea of dressing any twins identically was ridiculous - it compromises their individuality, and even identical  twins can have a lot of differences in their thinking and opinions.

One of the most prevalent grammatical errors which has cursed the world in the last five years or so is the substitution of the adjective 'gender' (which properly refers to inanimate objects - a ship is of the female gender) for the correct adjective, 'sex'. Boys and girls are of the opposite sex; gender has nothing to do with it.

Sometimes males who submissive and like female dress, and there are quite a few who read this site, are said to be 'gender female'. To be honest, I don't know if there is much truth in that either. 'Petticoat Discipline Monthly' is concerned with the domestic sphere of life, where a lot of men gain deep satisfaction from a submissive, adoring role in the household. My site, in part, promotes the interests of such men. However, if they have a free weekend, then, within an hour of the front door closing, you will find them on the terraces at White Hart Lane or somewhere similar. For a male to be genuinely 'gender female' is very rare, although it does occur.

To return to the main point, if twins of opposite sex are to be dressed alike, by all means dress them as girls. The book I have reviewed in this issue has a couple of cases. Letter 163 states in part, 'Dress twins as girls, making the boy act as maid to his sister...' [What a smashing idea! - Susan]

And from letter 136, 'Certainly boy and girl twins should be dressed exactly the same up to 16 years. I have a photo of the
De Lesseps twins (boy and girl) aged 12. Both are dressed as girls, exactly the same in skirts and beribboned socks and low shoes. Both have long hair tied with ribbon'.

At the end of this letter, the writer states, 'This should be sufficient answer to those...who say that a boy dressed (as he should be) in skirts, kilts, etc. becomes soft and effeminate. Who are more manly than our gallant Scots in kilts?'
[Nobody! - Susan]

To summarise, if I had twins, I think I would dress them differently. But if they are to be dressed alike, I think it is a great pity that modern parents dress the girl  twin in boys' clothes. Girls' clothing is so much sweeter and nicer.
Susan

Don't you think that effeminate boys should spend some time dressed up in colorful flannel nightgown ensembles? I keep my adopted nephew dressed in a pretty pink-and-white flannel outfit consisting of knee-length nightie (with full petticoat), and matching bonnet and footed bottoms, with plenty of pink ribbon and white eyelet lace. He wears this during the day (even in summer), while knitting or crocheting. He is so cute in his sweet little outfit, and he never gives me, or my daughter, any trouble at all. To reward him for his wonderfully obedient attitude, we have renamed him 'Fluffy', which is now embroidered in pink on the front of all of his little outfits.

Aunt Abigail

Well, as I have made clear in the pages of 'Petticoat Discipline Monthly', I think that girly, cissyish clothing can be a great help in managing boys, and can often become a great pleasure for the wearer too. But the clothing you describe must be too warm for summer wear, surely. A cotton baby doll with bloomer bottoms and with white silk ankle socks and girls' single strap shoes would be better for warm weather. I am sure dear Fluffy would appreciate the change, and would be just as agreeable and docile towards you, and towards his cousin.
Susan

I love my wife very much, but I am a high profile professional, and I don't want her to think less of me.  My fantasies are overwhelming, and I want her to be the one with the control.  Can you help? Alternatively I am interested in finding a mistress who will use petticoat punishment on me for training.  Can you help me?
Respectfully,

A boy in need of training.
 
This is the perennial question. I do not believe that you can ever find real fulfilment with a mistress. Perhaps explain to your wife that your work is very stressful, and that you need to relax when you are at home. Explain that it would be immensely relaxing for you if you became more 'the wife' and did the housework when you were at home, because you need the security of somebody else being in charge when you return tired from work. See how your wife reacts, and whether she seems sympathetic. Of course tell her that this does not make you any less competent or authoritative in your occupation.

If done tactfully, hopefully she will understand that you need this, and you can broach the subject of wearing a pinafore when you are carrying out your homely duties. The problem with this question (which I am often asked) is that everybody is different. It is very difficult for me to answer without knowing you and your wife.
Susan

There is nothing like full bloomers with nice tight elastic at the legs to make a husband feel submissive, secure, and 'mentally petticoated'. That is why the elastic in the schoolgirl bloomers of forty years ago was so strong, it was an excellent disciplinary measure for anybody. In Jackie's case wearing long legged bloomers which peeped out beneath a dancing pleated tartan skirt would make her feel very submissive and cissy, and I think I can understand why bloomers are so important to her when compared with panties.

Jackie mentions rayon or acetate bloomers, but bloomers are most pleasant to wear in winter, when they are soft and fleecy lined; at least I always thought so. Unfortunately I am not of much help here - these days in cold weather I wear long thermal undies with slacks (I hope my readers will forgive me; you tend to feel the cold more as you get older) so I don't know where good quality bloomers, which do not stint on material or elastic, could be found.

Can any of my readers help? I will happily publish the names of any suppliers of pink rayon bloomers of the kind that Jackie needs.
Susan

I have noted many comments about men being put into girdles so that they have to sit down to pass water. However I often wear a panti-corselette and find it quite easy to just to pull the gusset to one side. I was wondering if a long legged panti-corselette would make it more restrictive. I once saw one advertised in a catalogue but cannot remember which one.  I was wondering if one of your readers would know where you could buy a long legged panti-corselette (not a panti-girdle) or if somebody had one to sell. I take a 42 B cup.

Maid Angela

A panti-corselette is like a full-length girdle and panty girdle in one garment, and it is a perfect punishment garment for any males in need of correction and control. As readers can imagine, a long-legged style is very restrictive, and makes the wearer very dependant on the good graces of his wife. I have read of a rather junoesque wife who kept her hubby to the wearing of a long legged panti-corselette in the home, and would not allow him to escape from his imprisonment until he had knelt down and kissed her very round bottom twice.

If anybody can be of help in informing me where one of these very useful items of underwear can be obtained, I am sure it would be of great interest to readers.

Maid Angela wrote to you at Christmas asking about where to buy a long leg panti-corselette. This is indeed a wonderful training foundation garment, especially if the crotch opening is first sewn closed.

I suggest trying the website of Patricia, at http://www.shapeu.com

She has a wonderful range of really restrictive traditional foundation garments of every size and shape.
Best wishes,
Celia.

This seems to be an excellent site for firm foundation garments which can be employed for male discipline and chastity control.
Susan