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2) His 14th birthday is in October. Would it be a good time to give him his very own first bra? I have a good friend who runs a lingerie
shop downtown, and I would like to bring him in to be properly sized.

3) How do you curb him of masturbating all the time? It seems he is continually excited by wearing lingerie and dresses and it's
'obvious' out front as full cut briefs offer little support.
I hope to hear from you soon!

M. S.

Your son is unlikely to lose his desires to dress as a girl, so I think you are right to allow it, and not make him
feel guilty about it.
My answers to your three questions are as follows:

1) No, I do not think it is wrong that he see you in your underwear. I think that is not disturbing for a boy,
whether the boy enjoys wearing girls' clothes or not.

2) I believe that your attitude should be one of tolerance, rather than active encouragement. You should
definitely ask your son first. He may not wish to have his liking for pretty clothes so publicly revealed. Does
your friend know about him, and, if so, does your son know that she knows?

3) If he likes girls' clothes then excitement is inevitable, and it will do him no harm. I would not worry about it.

I hope this helps. Boys who want to wear frilly clothing have nearly always had to keep it a guilty secret. In
your case, I think your son is very lucky to have such an understanding mother.
Susan

                                                                 STILL A MUMMY'S BOY

Dear Miss Susan MacDonald,

My name is Ashley and I am a 32-year-old, unemployed man, still living at home with my mother. I am writing to you because I’ve
got an unusual relationship with my mother and I would like to ask your advice about what I should do. My mother still treats me like a little boy. Part of me enjoys all the attention I get and wants it to continue but part of me wants to break out and make a life for
myself, so I don’t really know what to do about things.

I’ve tried to move away from home twice so far and each time my mother has persuaded me that I should go back to her and let her
look after me. She can be very persuasive and knows exactly which buttons to press to get me to do what she wants. The last time I tried to be independent was about eighteen months ago but within a fortnight I had moved back home and was wearing the boyish
clothes she had chosen for me and she was dressing me in nappies and plastic pants for bed once again.

My problem is that I would like to be properly independent and be a responsible adult but every time I try to be one I can’t seem to
manage on my own. At the same time I want to stay with my mother and be her good little boy. It’s nice to know my mother is here
to dress me and change my nappies and I don’t even mind that sometimes she will dress me in babyish clothes more fitting for a
little girl than a boy, but I know this can’t go on forever and I will have to make a decision soon and stick to it.

My mother has just turned sixty and will be retiring at the end of the year. I feel obliged to stay and keep her company, but I am in
the prime of my life and also feel that I am missing out on so much more I suppose some people would think that I’ve already got a
comfortable life and that I shouldn’t complain so much. My mother obviously loves me very much but she doesn’t want me to grow
up and I don’t really do much to help myself do I? Should I make the break now and face the adult world, or should I stay with my
mother and continue living as her little boy in nappies?
Thank you for your time.
Yours truly,

Ashley Bristow

Well Ashley, if you were going to face the adult world, the first thing you would need is a steady job. You
would not be able to support yourself without employment, while if you are unemployed, then the temptation
to stay with Mummy must be very strong.

Of course reading between the lines, I can see that you have become very comfortable with all the
mollycoddling and babying that you are receiving from your mother. However, if you became independent
you might meet a partner with whom you could find a fulfilling relationship with you in the role of a
submissive servant, and I am sure you would find that much more satisfying.

So the essential step is to get a job. This will also enable you to meet nice girls who hopefully would like to have
a Mummy's Boy as a partner. Most married couples met through their work, and you have little chance of
meeting anybody if you are unemployed. Being Mummy's little baby can be very nice, but you at least should
be in a position to make your own choice in the matter.
Susan
 

                                                           DOMESTIC DISCIPLINE REQUIRED

Dear Nanny Susan,

I have reached the end of the rope with my spouse, Carl. Since losing his job he has abandoned all his family responsibilities and
now treats me with disdain. I still love him, and want to bring back the loving, dutiful man I married. My mother has a friend, who
suggested that if you act like a baby, you should be treated like one, so my mother thinks we should take her suggestion to heart
and place Carl under nappy discipline. The problem is that Carl is so big that even together we do not know if we can get him into
diapers, and keep him in them. What do you suggest?

Anna and Amanda

If he treats you with disdain, which is a terrible thing for any husband to do, then you certainly need to take
some action. A husband should worship his wife, and, ideally, recognise her authority in the marriage. He
certainly sounds very immature, and this attitude is no doubt linked with him losing his job. You need to be
quite firm, and tell him that since he is now at home for most of the day, then he is properly under your
control. If he does not like that, then you should certainly withhold any physical love.

You need to start off perhaps with a pretty apron. Tell him that he must take some responsibility for the
housework, and that he will have to wear it or else. Of course, once he starts wearing his apron and making
himself useful, he should be appropriately rewarded - not every time, but enough to successfully train him.
Suzy Morgan, one of 'Petticoat Discipline Monthly's most enthusiastic readers, has sent me a web site which
offers advice on how to attain a position of authority over a childish male. The URL is:

                                                             http://femalesincontrol.com/Home.htm

Full babying can follow later, if you think it would help. Start with a dummy, which is easily pinned to the
front of his apron (make sure you get a full length pinafore style apron), and he should be told that it will be
put to use if there are any whines or fusses about his new status. It should be pushed in at once if there are;
don't let him carry on for more than a few seconds, or you have lost the advantage.

Believe me, size has nothing to do with it. I have heard of plenty of husbands who are kept under full domestic discipline by the most petite wives. It is a question of insistence and strength of character, and we leave men
well behind in those respects. Please write and tell me how things develop.
Susan
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