CORRESPONDENCE FROM MISTRESS ALISON
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A brief introduction is in order; Mistress Alison is a good friend and a very knowledgeable and experienced Mistress, she has also been a frequent contributor to PDQ. She is now available to answer questions from both Mistress and sissies alike, assuming a respectful tone of course. These email conversations may well be included at some future date in PDQ though a request for privacy would be respected. Feel free to write her at mistress-alison@petticoated.com and please don't waste her valuable time asking "where / how can I find a Mistress?"

Dear Mistress Alison,

Over the past year I have wanted to learn more about men working as maids for their wives. Don't ask me why after 9 years of marriage this popped into my head. The internet is full of fantasy dreamers with those wanting to be maids and sissymaids. In order not to insult my wife with a fantasy I planned to talk with her about my thoughts to see if it was something she would entertain. To my surprise my wife was aware of sissymaids and husband maids. We talked about it in great detail over a weekend. My wife knew far more about it than I did so she led the conversation with me listening. Lorie explained her thoughts on what a husband maid should look like from head to toe. It kind of scared me to think my wife would want me dressed as though I was an actual maid. Lorie let me think on it for a few days then she asked if I was still interested in working and living as her maid we should get started before I changed my mind. I really didn't know if I wanted to be her maid after hearing all that it involved. When you think or dream of something it isn't real which allows you to go as far as you want with your dream. When there is a chance of it becoming real the thought process changes.

I thought long and hard about my dreams of working as Lorie's maid. One morning I decided to give it a whirl. Lorie was surprised yet pleased that I was willing to give it a whirl. Lorie made a list of clothing items since she knew more about what I needed than me. We set out to do some shopping together instead of me sitting at home. Lorie pointed out that I needed to be part of the shopping to help with sizing and colours. Together we went from store to store with me wondering why did I need so much. At one point Lorie told me to shush and just go with her because she knew what I needed. By the end of the shopping day Lorie was satisfied I had everything I needed to get started.

The next day Lorie helped me get dressed while she showed me what was what and how it fit together. I was living the dream all of a sudden without knowing what I got myself into. As the days went by I learned what a maid really did while Lorie showed me how to do it all. I was cleaning, doing laundry, making beds, and cooking. Lorie was head of the house while I followed her lead. It was more than I thought and a bit of a shock to my system. Lorie took to her new role as head of the household quite easily. When I questioned something Lorie pointed out it was me and me alone who asked to be the maid. Lorie was right about it.

One night a friend of Lorie's called to talk with her. Apparently she bought a 20 room motel just before Covid set in. They painted and cleaned up the place yet Covid stopped the business. Lorie told me some of the staff quit with there not being any work. Carla wanted to know if Lorie knew of anyone who could work as a part time maid. Without me knowing Lorie told Carla I was a maid in training if she wanted to give me a chance. Carla was surprised to hear I worked as Lorie's maid so she said sure why not give me a try. Later on that night Lorie shared the conversation with me. Needless to say I was shocked to hear Lorie told Carla about me then offered my services. I was not interested in working as a maid other than for Lorie at home. One thing lead to another when Lorie drove me over to the motel to meet Carla. I was so embarrassed as I sat there with Carla and Lorie. They talked about the job, my appearance and uniform. Carla went to get me housekeeper uniforms as she called them. Carla showed me around while telling me what was expected. Take way items were I needed to wear makeup, wear a short wig and paint my nails. Carla told me I would work with another woman who would train me.

On the way home I tried to get Lorie to call it all off. She explained Carla was a dear friend who needed help. That weekend I found myself cleaning motel rooms with another woman. It was slow for me at first while I learned to do things Carla's way. We had to clean all the rooms before check-in time in the afternoons. Business started to pick up to where all the rooms were rented. I worked well with the older woman. She liked working with me because I could do the heavier work easier than her.

One night at home Lorie told me Carla liked my work and she wanted me to work fulltime. I didn't want to be a motel maid as it was hard to hide myself when it was busy. Lorie talked with Carla to see how guests reacted to seeing me working as a maid. Carla admitted hearing a few comments but no complaints so she didn't see an issue with me working fulltime.

Mistress Alison, I don't want to be a commercial maid at a motel. Lorie told me it was to help her friend for a few months. I'm afraid a few months with be a few years. How do I approach this with Lorie and Carla?

Regards,
Jim

Dear Jim

I’m afraid you have left it a bit late to have second thoughts.

By far and away the most common letter I receive is along the lines of, “I want my wife to dominate me,” or “I want to be a maid for my wife,” and I always write back telling the writer to be careful for what he wishes for. If you have read any of the advice I’ve given to others you will know that I frequently point out that having power over another individual is both erotic and addictive and very few women once given that power ever relinquish it willingly, and that female led relationships (FLRs) become progressive and the progress is only ever in one direction.

The fact that your wife knew all about sissymaids and husbands working as maids, plus her willingness, and indeed alacrity, to “allow” you to become one suggest to me that it was something she had already thought about. She knew exactly what sort of maid she wanted and gave you time to think about becoming what she wanted, probably knowing that you wouldn’t back out. You say that “you decided to give it a whirl and Lorie was surprised yet pleased,” but what you actually did was to give her control and hand her the power in your relationship; and from then on she called all the shots and apart from the odd token protest you did as you were told. You have sent her the very clear message that you want to be her sissymaid, you want her to be in control and that you will be obedient to her orders. You may not have realised it at the time but that is what you did. You obviously do have submissive tendencies or you would never have thought about being a maid, it is illustrative that you used the terms dreams and dreamers, and your wife has picked up on this and decided to us it to her advantage.

I also notice you say you don’t want to work as a maid at motel, not that you don’t want to be a maid. If it became a choice between being both or neither, which would you choose? Are you happy being your wife’s maid? If you are and wish to continue as her maid then you should do as she tells you without complaint or question, that is the essence of the relationship between Mistress and maid. If you are not then you have a thornier problem because I doubt your wife would be willing to go back to things as they were.

I suggest that request a serious talk with our wife and tell her everything you have told me, but go into more detail about why you don’t wish to be a commercial maid. You could try telling her that serving as her maid is an honour and a privilege and devoting yourself to her ease and comfort comes naturally as it is your way of demonstrating how much you love and respect her, but doing the same thing for total strangers just doesn’t seem right. Try to make it about her and what you can do for her rather than a complaint or all about what you want.

Whatever you say you must be prepared for her to say something like, “I am your Mistress, you are my maid and you’ll do exactly as I tell you or face the consequences. Never show such disrespectful ingratitude again.”

Do write and let me know how you get on.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

By the number of emails, you get on us guys wanting to be maids I guess I'm talking to the right person. Thank you for getting back to me on my situation. You speak as though you already know my wife, Lorie. During our marriage there was never a time when I thought of her as dominant or the Mistress type. When I first talked to her about my wanting to be her maid my first thought was a simple no would be her response. To my surprise Lorie showed some interest, but I had to prove myself otherwise she wasn't interested. When you live with someone long enough you get an idea of what they might like to do and what they fantasize doing. Lorie knows me well which is why I had to prove to her I was serious. Then again I wasn't so sure I was serious.

I had no idea of the message I sent Lorie until I read your reply here. As a man I don't think the same way as Lorie or realize the impact of what I might have said until it was too late. Over the years I learned to think about bringing up a topic before just spitting it out. As you pointed out Lorie picked up on my request maybe stronger than I meant it. I was surprised that Lorie wanted me to go shopping with her so I could get started right away. In my head I thought wow Lorie liked my idea of being her maid without seeing the signs that she was taking control of me.

Thank you for suggesting I talk with Lorie about working at the motel. I know why she wanted me to help her friend yet working out in public so soon was hard for me to swallow. The woman I work with, the other maid is really nice and she has no problems with me dressed the same way she is at all. Carla the owner also has no issues with me dressed as one of her maids. I never thought women would be so open to having a male maid or a male maid employee.

At home Lorie has purchased a number of women's things for me to wear and use. When I asked questions Lorie just told me I would need them so best to have them on hand.

Thank you for letting me know how to talk to Lorie about my maid life. I don't want to work outside the home for anyone except Lorie. It was all I wanted to try in the first place. Lorie told her sister I am working as a maid at the motel to my surprise. Jan was confused by me as a maid until Lorie went into more detail. Shortly after Jan sent me a text to congratulate me on my new job with a couple of winks.

Tomorrow I don't work at the motel so the plan is to talk with Lorie on my future, my thoughts and where Lorie is coming from. With some luck I will find out what Lorie has planned and how long I have to work at the motel.

Yes, I like being a maid for Lorie. It is more than I bargained for but I like it. The motel work is a good workout which helps me sleep well at night. Wearing makeup is something to get used to applying every morning. I never wanted to wear makeup or a wig or even paint my nails. Lorie and Carla had other plans for me. I can see wearing makeup and a wig at the motel so I can blend in better. At home I don't see it as much though.

Once again thank you for your insight and experience. I learned from you to be careful what I wished for and why it might be too late.

Regards,
Jim

Dear Jim

You’re welcome.

From the additional information in your second e mail I am now convinced that your wife has already made all the decisions about what your future life is going to be like. The fact she has shared information about you with her sister indicates it is not something she intends keeping just between the two of you.

Wearing the wig and make has nothing to do with your blending in, it is about making you do something quintessentially female, about feminising you and reducing your sense of maleness, of getting you into the habit of submissive obedience. Ultimately it is about control.

When you have your talk maybe you should ask your wife if she intends becoming your Mistress, we both know that she has already done so in everything but name, but getting things out in the open and talking about them might help you accept it. How much would it bother you if she said “Yes, that is exactly what I intend?” Would it excite you more than it frightened you? Would it upset if you had to work as a maid for your sister-in-law? These are questions only you can answer.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I was surprised that Lorie would tell her sister about what I thought was private, at least in the family. Lorie didn't think it was a big deal to tell her sister I wanted to be her maid. I thought the wig and makeup were to help me fit in at the motel otherwise without them I would look like a man in a maid uniform. Carla was the one who talked to Lorie about how to get me to look like the woman I work with meaning female. Maybe I misread the signs again.

I talked with Lorie over dinner to find out more of what she wants me to do. Lorie told me that by working at the motel it was a test to see if I would do it without making a scene. She told me she was proud of me for taking the maid job seriously. I asked Lorie if she wanted to be my Mistress. Lorie looked at me then said of course why not Jim. It made me turn red with embarrassment. Lorie then followed up with telling me I was to be her sissymaid and do everything she tells me to do. Lorie waited for me to answer which I said yes Lorie ok I get it.

Lorie talked to me about what she expected from me at home. Lorie also made it perfectly clear that I am to continue working at the motel for Carla. Also on the weekends do some work at her sister's house when her husband is out of town. My brother in law works every other weekend. Lorie told me I will learn to love my role as her sissymaid the more I get used to her as my Mistress. Lorie also told me to consider Carla as a Mistress when I work at the motel so make sure I curtsey to her.

I asked Lorie more about wearing the chastity device. She laughed then told me to wear it during the week and if I am good she will let me out on the weekend for a few hours for her pleasure. Lorie pulled my panties down to look at the device to see if it was causing any redness. All I heard her say was perfect, it looks good.

I am happy to work as a maid for Lorie. I will help her sister too without any issues. It looks like I will also be working at the motel longer than I thought. Lorie is going to shave more of my body hair in the bath tonight and work on my eyebrows. When I was younger I used to wear studs in my ears so Lorie introduced earrings to me earlier. She told me to get used to living in a more feminine way.

Regards,
Jim

Dear Jim

You never mentioned being in chastity before. If you had I would have told you that it was a 100% certainty that Lorie was going to become your Mistress and you her sissymaid. You seem to have accepted it all far more calmly that most of the “reluctant” petticoatees who write to me, from which I infer that you do have a submissive side, it is probably stronger than you are actually aware and Lorie has decided to exploit it her own advantage. Likewise, you never mention having to curtsy, again this is highly indicative of your new status as a sissymaid and that of Lorie, Carla and your sister-in-law as Mistresses. One sissymaid, three Mistress, you are going to be one busy little sissymaid.

I imagine the next stage will be to find a new femme name for you. After that you can probably expect punishments for any substandard or slip work, bad attitude or disrespect. Your feminisation is following a very recognisable pattern and there is now nothing you can do about it. This is your new life from now on; and as Mistress Lorie has said you had better get used to it. Being a sissymaid to a Mistress is like anything else in life really, the more you put into it the more you’ll get out, and if you are obedient and work hard then you will come to love it.

I tell all new sissymaids to remember the acronym ODD for Obedience, Dress, Demeanour. Get these three things right and everything else will follow. Also, it never goes amiss to tell your Mistress how grateful you are for being allowed the privilege of serving such a wonderful whom you adore and worship. Praise and compliment her whenever you can.

As you are now a sissymaid I am going to give you a direct instruction: If you haven’t done so already you will tell Mistress Lorie that you have written to me and show her our correspondence. I then want either you, or Mistress Lorie if she prefers, to write and tell me her reaction. A sissymaid should have no secrets from her Mistress.

I wish you a long and happy life of sissy servitude.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

Perhaps you didn't receive a short email I sent yesterday letting you know about the chastity device Lorie bought. I'm sorry if you didn't receive it. I'm pretty sure I mentioned the curtsey however I am doing it to Lorie and Carla at the motel. The woman I work with at the motel thinks it's cute that I curtsey to Carla. Lorie didn't give me much choice so that is why I am trying to accept the situation knowing that arguing would not work out well for me.

I will show Lorie all the emails later today that you and I have written. I have to agree it is best to not keep anything from Lorie. Over the years of marriage, I learned that a long time ago. Lorie has a temper when things are hidden from her then she finds out. I never mean to hide things, it's just I forgot to tell her a bunch of times.

I talked to the woman I work with about wearing a wig. It gets itchy some days so I wanted to know if she had any secrets. She figured for me I should grow my own hair then ask Lorie to take me to the salon. I talked to Lorie this morning who agreed that I should let my hair grow and my nails as well. She said I won't be my male self ever again which is why growing my hair and nails is a great idea. Lorie said the only time I will be manly is when she rides on my penis.

I have a bunch of things to do today Mistress Alison otherwise I will get behind. It is harder during the week when working at the motel to get everything done at home. Lorie suggested I plan to do one thing a day at home so I don't over do it.

At work they call me Molly which is what my name tag says. Lorie calls me Molly now too. Am I Jim or Molly to you Mistress Alison?

Bye for now
Jim

Dear Molly

That is now your femme name so it is how I shall address you.

No, I didn’t receive your e mail about chastity, the vagaries of the internet can be infuriating at times. What device are you wearing?

A well trained sissymaid should be able to curtsy while keeping a book balanced on her head.

Growing you own hair and nails is an excellent idea, but don’t let either get too long, the hair will fall over your face when working and long nails get easily chipped. A trip to the salon with your Mistress is a treat which you should look forward to and eagerly anticipate. Having a professional full body wax every few months is a good idea as it gets much better results than you will ever achieve at home and keeping your body nice and smooth should be a priority.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

The internet mail is sometimes frustrating at this end too. Lorie bought The Vice in pink. I know why it is called The Vice because doesn't come off, I tried. I thought you would agree with Lorie about my hair and nails. Lorie showed me her nails which are not as long as some of her friends. She said my hair should grow just below the ears in a style that is easy to maintain and work with all day. Lorie told me if I want a pony tail that is also possible. I have no idea about women's hair styles right now. There is so much to learn to look like a woman for a guy. Ouch a full body wax? OMG that will hurt.

Lorie's sister is dropping by to see me. She has some electric gadget to shape my eyebrows and make them thinner. I'm not looking forward to it. I'm getting to know more about what women have to do to look beautiful.

Alright the iron is calling me to finish Lorie's clothes.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

The Vice is a good device though I prefer the Holy V2 in stainless steel for my sissymaid, kitty, who wears one most of the time. She has other devices depending on what she is doing and or wearing.

There is an old French saying, il faut souffrir pour être belle which means one must suffer to be beautiful. You are discovering a little of what women have been doing for centuries in order to please men, now you are doing it please your Mistress.

You’re lucky you are not having your eyebrows plucked slowly by hand using old fashioned tweezers.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I don't know much about any devices except the one I have on that works. Why does kitty have different devices? Is the stainless steel one heavy? Sorry for the dumb questions. Lorie tried to use tweezers and it hurt really bad. She told me to stop being a baby then she called her sister who works at a salon. Her sister has something that will work on me or any other guys. Carla is the one who wants me to look more feminine than Lorie although Lorie likes the thought of me looking more feminine. It's all so new to me I just go with what Lorie tells me to do.

Carla talked to Lorie today to let her know how pleased she is with my work at the motel. Carla wants me to stay working there fulltime if possible. It was supposed to be for a month or two. The woman I work with loves my work and she likes having a strong helper. I'm not a big guy at all.

Tomorrow I have to go to Lorie's sister's house to strip down the beds, wash and iron the bedding then iron all her blouses, skirts and husband's shirts. He will come home thinking his wife did all the ironing which she hates to do. Lorie told me to do the same job as I do at home or else.

Mistress Alison, was it hard for kitty to take orders from you in the beginning? I do everything I am told to do by all the women at work and at home. It just is hard for me sometimes to take orders. It is not natural for me other than when I lived at home with my mother. Lorie is pushing me to get used to her in charge. I do obey her at all times yet sometimes I think of questioning her. I know better though.

Mistress Alison, do you know of others whose wives of Mistresses sent them out to work as maids? Am I the odd one or is this more common than I know?

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

Kitty has several chastity devices, 7 so far, as there is no such thing as a perfect one for all occasions. Just like shoes she changes them, or rather I select which one she should wear, depending on the outer clothes she’s wearing, what she is going to be doing, where we are going etc. The steel one is her default chastity precisely because it is heavy, hers is actually drilled and loaded with lead shot for extra weight, so she is constantly aware of it and of my power and authority over her.

You are now getting into the right mindset of a sissymaid, do as you’re told by Mistress Lorie, and Mistress Carla, and I suspect your sister-in-law, at all times and without demur or complaint. You say Mistress Lorie told you when at your sister-in- law’s house you should, “do the same job as I do at home or else,” what exactly is the “or else?” Has Mistress Lorie started punishing you, or is that yet to come?

Kitty had no trouble accepting female authority, she is the most naturally submissive person I’ve ever met and it was she who wanted me to become her Mistress, not the other way round. She has been cross dressing since puberty and for her being in uniform and serving as a maid is what she believes is what she “was put on this earth to do.” She is very happy with her life and in her work, if I didn’t punish her she would feel, in her own words, “Unloved and neglected.”

I know of several sissymaids who work outside the home on a part time basis and Mistresses who lend out their maids to friends, kitty occasionally helps a friend of mine when she holds large parties, but you are first I’ve come across who works in a commercial setting. Tell yourself it is an honour and Mistress Carla you are proud to be working in her Motel.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I had no idea that kitty had so many chastity devices or certain devices go with certain clothes. You are teaching me more what I will be doing than Lorie has told me so far. In a way I am glad you let me know what you do with kitty and how she serves you. The sissymaid thing is all new to me. All I have to learn from is PDQ and of course you. At least now I have a better idea of what will come down the pipe for me and what I need to do for Mistress Lorie.

Will I become more submissive in time or not? Kitty is more submissive than I think I am right now. I wasn't sure if many sissymaids worked out of the home or at real jobs like mine. By the sounds of it I will be working at the motel for some time.

This has to be short since Mistress Lorie is calling me again.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

The real truth here isn’t that you will become more submissive, because you always were submissive otherwise you would never have started this, and remember it was you that started it. That idea didn’t just pop into your head from nowhere it was always there growing and developing though you may not have been fully aware of the process. Similarly you didn’t suggest to your wife you become her maid unless you had already decided it was what you wanted to happen, or at least thought you did because you never realised the full implication of what you were asking for. The real truth is that as Mistress Lorie becomes more dominant your submissiveness will become more apparent, and your behaviour will be controlled more by your innate desire to be dominated and to submit to a loving female authority figure than by the conditioning of your upbringing and previous experience.

You know that even if you wanted to, and be honest you don’t want to, you will never be able to return to the way things were. Your wife has become your Mistress and intends to keep you as her sissymaid, she has told you this and that you had better get used to it. In time you probably will become more like kitty, when you stop wondering and asking about your future and simply accept you no longer have the ability to influence anything. I doubt you will ever become as submissive as her; can you see yourself going to Mistress Lorie and confessing to having done something wrong, not done a job well enough, or having had lustful thoughts about another female and begging her to punish you for it? Can you image ever telling her you haven’t yet suffered enough for your sins? Maybe the thought of doing that excites you but also terrifies you, in which case you are like the majority of those who fantasise about becoming sissymaids, and for the vast majority the terror far outweighs the excitement. It’s why so many men visit sex workers to play at being sissymaids, to experience a temporary loss of control and maybe a little pain, but never more than they can handle, before going back to their ordinary lives and their vanilla wives.

You are now experiencing the reality and I suspect enjoying it, whether or not you want to admit that, even to yourself.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

You have explained things very well to me in this email. I have to agree with you that there were signs here and there but for the most part I ignored them I never understood why I had those feelings at times either. I also didn't expect Mistress Lorie to even consider having me as her maid. Then again when you mentioned Mistress and I asked Mistress Lorie if she planned for me to be her sissymaid the answer surprised me. What I do know so far is Mistress Lorie has adjusted to her role as Mistress easier than I have as her maid. When I say that I mean Mistress Lorie acts as though this has always been our way of life in the way she talks. There is no guesswork for her when orders are given. If I was always submissive in a small way would it be fair to say Mistress Lorie has always had some dominant traits hidden from me? Is that the case with most women?

Do most women want to be in control of their men and the planet we live on? Do you think in time women will rule the world? I have learned more about Mistress Lorie and Mistress Carla as women in the last few weeks than I ever knew before. Men are easy to read but not so with women. Would you agree?

I will be back later on but for now I have dinner to prepare.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

I think there are several factors in your changing relationship with Lorie, who was your wife and is now your Mistress. Most people have at least three sides or facets or aspects of their character; the public one which they display to the world, their professional one they show at work and the private one that usually is seen only by their close family. However, the private one is often only part of the story, and many individuals conceal some part of themselves from everybody, sometimes they even manage to conceal it from themselves. Before it became decriminalised this was true of a huge number of homosexuals, who frequently married and had had children specifically to conceal a part of themselves from the world, many suppressed their true sexual feelings throughout their lives because of shame, guilt and fear.

Most people have a little of everything in their character and can assume different roles to suit particular circumstances, being different at work to the way they are at home is a classic example, think of soldiers, police officers, firemen who show controlled aggression as part of their job, or teachers who have absolute authority in the classroom, but maybe very different with their spouses and family. Some are born naturally dominant and in men we admire that trait and call them leaders, in women society tended in the past to deprecate it and brand them, bossy, pushy, difficult or shrewish. I believe that most men have at least some submissive tendencies because the first, and in some cases only, person to give them unconditional love was also the first person to discipline them, to introduce rules into their life and to punish them, their mother. In accepting female authority they are seeking to recreate the unique relationship they had, which Freud maintained was also their first sexual experience, with that loving disciplinarian and so love and acceptance become inextricable entwined with sexual submission and female dominance.

I don’t know whether women who dominate men want to turn them back into infants, though some use infantilism as a form of punishment and humiliation. I suspect most women do have an aggressive streak, which will emerge given the right provocation; think of the expression “Like a mother protecting her cubs,” but under normal circumstances societal norms and peer group pressure cause them to curb any dominant tendencies. Most probably don’t even realise the degree of power they could wield over men. If any wife strode into the bedroom dressed in leather and high boots swishing a cane or crop and cried, “On your knees, slave!” then I imagine 95% of husbands would immediately become erect and the majority of them would actually obey the command. I suspect that your talk of becoming a maid, and your wife becoming your Mistress merely released what was always lurking beneath the surface, and as I keep reiterating power is erotic and addictive and women who gain the upper hand in their relationship seldom if ever give it up.

I suspect that Mistress Lorie is still feeling her way and thinking about experimenting with all kinds of new possibilities, knowing that you have no alternative but to comply with her wishes and her orders. Most Mistress/sissymaid relationships become steadily progressive as the Mistress explores the possibilities of her new found power and takes greater pleasure from exercising it. More and more women are taking control of their relationships with or without the man’s consent and more and more of them are breaking into new fields of endeavour, running multinational companies, the IMF, being prime minister, though whether we will end up running the world is debatable. Somehow I doubt it because there is one urge that drives women far more powerfully than anything else, to bear and nurture children. It’s the one thing that makes us unique, the one thing that men will never be able to do, it’s what our bodies were designed for and Mother Nature is the cruellest and most implacable Mistress of them all.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I just got home from work at the motel so excuse my late reply.

This email was very informative. I never thought of the examples you gave before however they all make sense to me. Mistress Lorie is feeling her way as I am following her lead every day. This is a new life for both of us. Mistress Lorie had read all about life as a Mistress but now she is living it just as I am her sissymaid. On my end I'm learning to take orders from all women, learning to wear their clothing and learning to use women's products to help me look more like a woman. I think my learning curve is steeper than Mistress Lorie at this point. She may disagree with me though.

Thank you for helping me learn and see things through a Mistress's eyes.

Molly

Dear Molly

You’re welcome. In time this new lifestyle will become just as normal as your old one was, only it will probably be more rewarding because you will have the satisfaction of knowing that you’re doing your Mistress’s bidding, making her life easier and more fulfilled. Just remember ODD and you can’t go wrong.

Being a sissymaid doesn’t preclude you from asking your Mistress questions, provided you do it in a suitably respectful fashion, or from sharing your worries and difficulties with her, for asking her for help in training you to serve her better. This is after all a joint venture, which you initiated by opening up to her about your inner self; she likes the new you, or more accurately the true you, the real you, better than she liked the old you, the version of you that you chose to show the world. This should be a win, win situation, though being a sissymaid is never a walk in the park, and if you’re not both experiencing a sense of satisfaction and above all of the rightness of your respective roles then you’re doing something wrong. I suggest you tell Mistress Lorie this.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I have been very busy working at the motel lately. By the time I get home my feet get a rest for a few minutes before my work at home begins. Although I am very busy the work I do is enjoyable and appreciated by Mistress Lorie. I have cleaned out my closet to make room for my maid uniforms and other clothing. Mistress Lorie had me pack up my male clothes and shoes since I won't need them anymore. I have accepted the fact I am Mistress Lorie's maid at home and Mistress Carla's maid at the motel. It's only been a few weeks but I know this is what I am destined to be for the rest of my life. Mistress Lorie told her family and my family I have decided to live life as a sissymaid. Some were shocked while others congratulated Mistress Lorie and me. Mistress Lorie wants me to be happy and not be shy about serving her in this capacity. After reading your emails and listening to Mistress Lorie I realize this is a good life and accepting it as an opportunity is the best thing for me. I just wanted to let you know it was with your help I am in this place so thank you very much.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

That is excellent news, you have now accepted that this is your new life, that can be and will be no going back. Mistress Lorie is spot on, you should not be shy or in any way embarrassed by what you are doing, you should be proud. Best of all you now realise that a life of service to the woman you love will be a good one and immensely rewarding. It won’t be an easy one, but nothing worth having was ever attained without effort.

I am only glad to have been able to help you in some small measure.

If you can find the time why not write to Auntie Helga and tell her about yourself and your journey, I’m sure other readers would be interested in your story.

I wish you and Mistress Lorie well for the future.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

Sorry, I couldn't get back to you sooner. The lady I work with at the motel was off sick for 2 days leaving me with all of the rooms to clean. Mistress Carla gave me the morning off as a reward for my hard work the last couple of days. I get along well with Mistress Carla even though she is my boss. She told me if she ever got a chance to hire another male maid like me she would jump at the opportunity. Mistress Carla told me when Mistress Lorie told her I was a maid at home she couldn't imagine a man as a maid. Then when she met me while I was wearing my home uniform the light went on in her head. Mistress Carla wanted me to know how much she appreciates me and the courage to be a maid. I thanked her for the nice words as I curtseyed. I let Mistress Carla know how much I liked working with her at the motel. All the people there are nice to me even those who don't understand why I am a housekeeper.

You know Mistress Alison the thought of working as a maid was all new to me not long ago. I was terrified at the thought of leaving the house in a maid uniform and working at a motel that way. Now to me what I do is normal and the clothes I wear at home and at the motel are normal too. I dress and look like other maids and housekeepers. I wear makeup, have my hair done and paint my nails the same way other maids do. The only difference is I'm not a woman. The rest of what I do is the same way women do things. It's harder to look like a woman and thank goodness for makeup but each day I pull it off to the best of my ability. Mistress Lorie helps me look my best as well. I don't know why more husbands don't live this way. I like who I am and what I do. The best part is that both my Mistresses love me for what I do for them. That is cool.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

Your latest e mail made my day. It is always good to hear that people I’ve helped are enjoying their new lives and their new status, it makes all the effort worthwhile and the time wasters bearable.

When I first started out as Mistress I struggled to understand why anyone would actively want to be turned into a sissymaid, and there times when it still puzzles me, but I have accepted it completely and could never go back to any relationship where I was not in total control. I perfectly understand that devoting your life to the service of another is a very sincere form of love that just can’t be faked or gainsaid.

Having not just one but two Mistress who love you for what you do is more than cool, it’s brilliant.

I wish you all the best for the future which I am sure will be very rosy.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

Your emails always made my day after I realized everything you told me was true, going to happen and did happen. I knew then no matter what my issue you were there to help me; not stop or change the destination but to help me stay on course. I'm happier today thanks in part to you, Mistress Lorie and Mistress Carla. I love my job as a maid at home and housekeeper at the motel. One other thing I like as much is all the clothes I wear unlike what I was used to wearing as a man. The selection of styles, colours and materials is so amazing to me. I never knew in my former life that my new life could be so amazing. In any job I ever had there was a feeling of satisfaction like there is serving Mistress Lorie and Mistress Carla. To see them happy with what I have done for them makes my day.

I can see why you struggled but yet can also see why today you are happier because of what kitty brings to you. Mistress Lorie is also a changed woman after taking charge of me. Her smile tells all and that in itself is a good enough reason for me to try all the harder to keep her happy. One thing I noticed not only with my relationship with Mistress Lorie is there is never an argument of any kind. She is always happy and so am I unlike other couples we know. The world will be a better place when women rule it don't you agree. So many men create wars, arguments, fights and ruin marriages. If women took charge those men would be put in their place quickly or be punished as they deserve.

I can see why kitty is a sissymaid and why you are a Mistress. It just makes sense to me now. She is happy and she makes you happy just as I do here at home and at work. Life is so much better when the women in your life are happy.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

Thank you for your kind words.

Maybe one day women will end up running the world, and making a better job of it, while men recognise their innate superiority and do their bidding, though I doubt it will ever happen in my lifetime.

Please give my regards to both your Mistresses. A Mistress who has a willing and contented maid is indeed fortunate, almost as fortunate as yourself in having two understanding Mistresses to cherish and to serve.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I hope you are doing well with the increase of Covid cases world wide. If there was a movement where I could voice my opinion about living in a world ruled by women, I would join in. No, I haven't always felt that way but I do now after Mistress Lorie and yourself opened my eyes. Also I did give both Mistresses your regards. Both of them thanked you for what you do and how you helped me see things their way.

One thing I have learned along the way is that it takes more work to be a woman than a man. Women in general from what I have learned spend more time looking good from makeup to clothing where a man has it much easier. I know this from my own experience now as well. There is no more waking up and walking out the door in 30 minutes. Oh no, it is more like 1 1/2 hours for me by the time I make breakfast then get myself ready. Am I complaining? No way, it's just an adjustment to get used to doing every day.

Anyways, I just got home from work so now it is time to change then get working on dinner for Mistress Lorie.

A maid's work is never done.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

You are discovering the real truth of that French saying il faut souffrir pour être belle, one must suffer to be beautiful. Men have it easier partly because they have less to do; a quick shave, jump in the shower, and put on the same business suit they wore the day before and will probably wear tomorrow, before eating a breakfast prepared by someone else and then going out the door, and partly because they believed it was a woman’s job to look good for them not the other way round. You now have to shave very carefully, but then have all the time consuming business of making up, dressing carefully, making sure your seams are straight etc to ensure you look good that are the daily lot of every woman. But more importantly you are thinking differently, thinking more like a woman, losing the innate selfishness of a man and starting to think about what you can do for others.

Reading through your previous e mails I get the distinct impression that this is something you’ve actually wanted for a long time, that Molly is the real you and Jim was the disguise that family and society imposed upon you. Over the years I’ve received a large number of letters from men who initially resisted being petticoated by their mothers, wives or girlfriends and then, much to their surprise, came to find the role of maid or servant brought them an inner peace. As one wrote, “I was running around like a rat in a maze, every day worrying about 101 different things while my wife nagged me, constantly competing with other men and always feeling I wasn’t cutting the mustard, but now I have just one thing to worry about, pleasing my Mistress. If I foul up I get the punishment I deserve and it sure as hell hurts, but when I get it right then everything is just perfect.” I think as you get more used to your new routines and they become automatic you will be able to do things quicker and better and you too will also experience that inner peace that comes from doing something you enjoy really well. Your Mistresses will signal their satisfaction and life will seem perfect.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I do remember not having to do much after getting out of bed. If I rushed I could be out of the house in 15 minutes. Those days are gone while it takes me at least an hour to get ready for work. Mistress Lorie sometimes challenges me to see who can get ready first. She is much faster at makeup and hair than I am.

This past week I worked in the office at the motel dealing with suppliers and learning payroll. It's been a nice break from my maid job. The other thing I like about it is a change of clothes. I get to wear a skirt and blouse to work instead of a uniform. Mistress Carla likes the job I am doing so she promised to let me work in the office when one of the girls is on vacation going forward. One thing that is a challenge for me is typing with nails. Most of the girls never knew I had nails because I always wear gloves while cleaning. I think they are getting used to me more each day.

You were so right about guys who became sissymaids below. I don't worry about anything except keeping both my Mistresses happy. It really is so much easier to be a sissymaid than it was before as a man. One of these days more men will realize just how much better life is as a sissymaid. I'm very happy with my life and so is Mistress Lorie.

Have a lovely day.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

That is all excellent news. Promotion at work already and the opportunity to wear different outfits, truly your cup runneth over.

Fortunately more and more women are taking full control of their relationships and discovering the joys of having a sissymaid so there are more opportunities than ever before for men to serve them and in doing so discover a better way of life.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

Mistress Gloria likes my work and my attitude over some other employees. I never complain about what I am asked to do by anyone here. The way I look at it is I'm here for so many hours so best I do everything I can in those hours. My maid job is still there when the girl comes back from vacation. Working in the office is something different however I do like my maid job best. Oh yes it is nice to wear different outfits like the other girls do. Oddly enough I love wearing a maid uniform as it feels more like the real me. I was letting Mistress Lorie know how the office work was for me this week. She asked me if I liked the office job better than working as a maid. When I let her know I liked working as a maid better she smiled then said that is nice to hear.

Thank you for considering my letters to be sent to Auntie Helga. I hope it helps others see what is possible when you become a maid. Maybe they will want to work in a hotel or motel too.

Regards,
Molly

Dear Molly

It does not surprise me or sound odd that you prefer being a maid, or that you should consider Molly the sissymaid as being the real you. See my previous comments in earlier replies. That Mistress Lorie smiled when you confirmed what she’s known for a long time merely reinforces my conviction that what you are doing is right for you both.

I have just been watching the funeral service of Prince Philip, the Duke of Edinburgh; a man who expressed his love for a superior woman through a lifetime of selfless service. You are in good company.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison


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