WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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Last October I attended an out of town work related conference and that
is where my interest was rekindled. A group of us were sitting in the
hotel bar on the last night, knowing that we would go our separate ways
the next day with fond memories and a few sore heads. Towards the end of
the night our small group was almost all female, with the exception of
one male in his mid-thirties. The atmosphere became jolly as the night
wore on and the conversation became more girly, with the unspoken
intention of causing as much embarrassment as possible to our
unfortunate male colleague. One quiet member of our group, a young woman
of about 27 - 30 years of age did not participate in our male-baiting at
all and seemed to be pretty disgusted by the whole thing.
Then, as the
night wore on the 'quiet' one dropped a bombshell that left us all
stunned. She told us that we would all arrive home exhausted the
following day to an untidy mess in the house, would probably go on to
cook a meal for whoever was at home and then get on with other chores
such as doing the laundry etc. On the other hand, she would arrive home
to a house that was spotlessly clean and tidy and if she chooses to do
so, she would not lift a finger to do housework. Then, as our interest
was greatly aroused our friend got tongue tied and would say no more.
However, after much coaxing and more drinking she told us the whole
story. She had been married for three years and had put her husband in
petticoats from the start, along with the occasional use of corporal
punishment in order to keep him under control. Pretty mind boggling
stuff for those of us who believed that sort of thing was only internet
The following day I returned home to the type of scenario that our young
friend had described. The lovable hunk that I had married eighteen years
earlier has turned into a disrespectful, lazy and verbally abusive slob.
Although I am the stronger one in our relationship without any doubt, I
am prepared to put up with a lot of crap just to keep things running
smoothly. That said, when I decide that I want something I never let up
until I am successful.
Now, this is my dilemma. What that girl said in the hotel that night has
been in my head ever since and not a day goes by that I do not think
about it. The more I consider it the more convinced I am that something
similar would work for my husband and I. There is no doubt in my mind
that I could have him in petticoats and a lot more in a short time
should I choose to do so. What worries me is that if the whole thing did
not work out, there would be no going back to a 'normal' relationship.
What do you think? I will be celebrating my 40th birthday soon and I
need to make serious changes in my life. The children are both going
away to college now and we will have the house to ourselves.
Thank you for your letter M. Of course here at PDQ we promote
this discipline and feel that should you implement it, you will not
want to 'go back' and even if you did, you have shown your husband that you are a
strong confident woman and fully capable of being in control. Please do let us know what you decided.