A brief introduction is in order; Mistress Alison is a good friend and a very knowledgeable and experienced Mistress, she has also been a frequent contributor to PDQ. She is now available to answer questions from both Mistress and sissies alike, assuming a respectful tone of course. These email conversations may well be included at some future date in PDQ though a request for privacy would be respected. Feel free to write her at firstname.lastname@example.org and please don't waste her valuable time asking "where / how can I find a Mistress?"
Dear Mistress Alison
I hope you are well and thank you for offering the opportunity of correspondence through PDQ, it is very much appreicated. I am a sissy who dresses and acts like a little girl, I have lot's of little girl dresses, outfits, dollies and teddy bears and have been seriously dressing for over ten years. I am 100% more comfortable in little girl clothes than mens and feel these reflect my true sissy nature.
I have long accepted my inadequacy as a male both physically and emotionally and that I would never be what society pertains a man to be, albeit as a sissy I do not truly understand what it is to be a man. I have little in terms of manhood, while my most of my body matured into adulthood, my pee pee, the essence of what supposedly maketh the man, stayed rooted in infancy.
All my life I have been fascinated by women and have a long held belief that women are in all aspects superior to men, that they should be worshiped, adored and maybe fundamentally more importantly obeyed. In my eyes it is one of the more obvious facts of life that a womens world would be a world of harmony, with freedom of expression, compassion and common sense. There simply isn't a pedestal high enough to put women on.
For me there has not been any notion I could ever have a conventional relationship, in that context I see myself as something abhorrent and unworthy so I have never attempted it. How could I convince a woman to love me as a man when I am clearly not a man?
So I have allowed myself to be content with my little girl world, a world I feel happy in, a world that feels safe and a world that feels right to me. I allow myself to skip, my pigtails bouncing as I do, I allow myself time to play with my dollies, to revel in the innocence and sanctity of being a little girl.
Over the last few years being a little girl has become the most important aspect of my life, it has ceased to be simply an escape from the charade of pretending and become more of an identity, a complete expression of my sissiness. I am willingly consumed by it and find myself wanting and needing it to be a full lifestyle in as much as it is possible.
I know of and have indeed corresponded with some sissies who have taken the step to create a little girl lifestyle, they have found the courage to be open about who they are and subsequently are happier for it.
I guess my question is should I as a sissy be doing whatever I can to be true to my nature? In my heart I want to be a little girl as much as possible yet at the moment lack the courage and this makes me feel I am not being true to myself. Is there a place in the world for little girl sissies like me?
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Thank you for your most poignant letter.
While I’m naturally pleased you appreciate the true status of the superior sex and completely understand your wholly natural desire to obey us and to put us on a pedestal, I cannot agree that the cruel trick that nature has played upon you makes you in any way unworthy of a woman’s love. One of the very things that makes us the superior sex is our ability to see beyond the physical. For men attractiveness is all about appearance and in their own case physical prowess, we are much more likely to be influenced by the spiritual and many, many, women have deep loving relationships with men whose disabilities or disfigurements are far worse than your own. Also the size of your penis is no barrier to giving a woman sexual pleasure; as I wrote in my piece in the December issue the principal organ for giving me pleasure is the tongue. Just as there is more than one way to kill a cat there is more than one way to give a woman an orgasm.
Lecture over. You have found a measure of happiness by becoming a different sort of person, an innocent little girl for whom the pressures of conforming to some perceived male stereotype do not exist and thereby created a new identity for yourself. You are happy in this identity and wish to build your life around it, that’s your choice and provided they do no harm to anyone else no human being should ever be denied the chance of happiness. In answer to your specific question I believe there is a place in this world for everybody. If you remember your Shakespeare, Friar Lawrence says, “For nought so vile that on the earth doth live. But to the earth some special good doth give.” (Romeo & Juliet Act 2 Scene 3) I don’t mean to suggest that you are in any way vile merely that you have a different gift to give. Staying with Shakespeare Polonius tells his son Laertes, “This above all: to thine ownself be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” Who are we to argue with the world’s greatest writer? So yes there is place in the world for sissies like you. Finding it may not be easy, but it is there. If you read the back issues of PDQ you will find many letters from ladies who wish they’d had daughters rather than sons and tried with varying degrees of success to reverse nature. Also there are childless women in the world who would love to have a little girl of their own, and one who didn’t need quite so much looking after and who could provide other comforts would be an added bonus. You may never find the person you’re seeking but that’s no reason to stop looking.
I wish you the very best of luck in your quest for happiness.
Dear Mistress Alison
Thank you very much for your helpful and candid reply. I believe I have been influenced greatly by perceptions that have lead me to feel my unworthiness so your words give me much hope and see things more clearer. Also in relation to my penis size, I have to admit that pleasuring a woman with my tongue is something I have loved to do in the past so it is reassuring that I could use my tongue and not worry about my teenie weenie.
It was refreshing to read the Shakespeare quotes, he certainly knew the human condition. I think that is where I have been going wrong, I need to look for a woman who would appreciate me as a little girl as well as my other aspects and while it may be a fruitless search, it is a worthy search. Thank you. There really is nothing better than a different perspective on things so I truly appreciate you taking the time to reply and share your thoughts.
I'm only too glad to have been of help. Dare to be different and remember that variety is the spice of life. Personally I like spicy food and so do millions of others.
Once again good luck.