Dear Helga,

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement in your comments about my last letter in your Christmas 2011 issue. I must speak up concerning the important influence mothers have in recognising and encouraging feminine development in younger males who show signs of feminine behaviour.

There is little doubt that encouraging young boys to be more like girls is a useful task in 'softening' their approach to living with a partner in the future and many boys will testify to wearing girls clothes on occasions but it is how that is developed that is important. Ultimately sissy boys, unless given the right guidance may remain stuck in what I call the pigtails and petticoats stage where they are content to wear the clothes of young girls and fail to develop a more womanly outlook and more womanly personal style.

The introduction of my husband to be to wearing pantiegirdles and indeed pantie liners in his teens started to make that breakthrough. The wearing of such a garment restricts masculine thoughts and encourages a young man to accept that the power and masculine confidence a normal man holds is based on his potency and manhood and removal of this belief is a vital component in feminizing.

I just continued the process based on his mothers (and aunts) excellent foundation work. It was their process over many years (from the age of 6) which removed all slight traces of his masculinity but still left doubts in him about the degree of femininity he would be happy with.

This is an important question for all partners of sissies. At some point we have to be able to recognise whether our sissy is going to be happy to be a feminized male to some degree, or whether your sissy should really be a woman and helped to achieve that goal.

The big test in my view is the wearing of a bra. All sissies may enjoy wearing a bra but the key test is getting them to the point where they agree or disagree concerning having or developing a physical reasons to wear one. If they don't want breasts they can remain part-time, but if they do want breasts it takes away all sense of being femme part time, or just indoors or on special occasions or just in front of trusted friends and family. Breast development leads a feminine male through that door marked 'woman' and towards female and has to be approached with the long term view that this male you married at some stage will want to live 24/7 as a woman even if final surgical steps are not taken.

Janet has already found how difficult life is outside the house trying to hide the fact that he is now a 38C and has accepted the fact that he will for all practical purposes have to be 'she', not only in private as she is now but in public also and a huge but necessary step for us in finding our true roles.

Kim

Thank you for your letter Kim. You certainly make some very valid points and we appreciate your experienced insights.

Helga