Dear Helga,

I have started to institute regular punishment nights as you suggested in your response to his letter you published in last month's Dummy Discipline Digest. It is interesting as he reacts very well to this now, after some initial stupid and childish resistance in the beginning.

As you know, I had started to spank, nappy and feminize my husband this year. My husbands mother had used this punishment on him when he was younger, but your idea of introducing more regular punishment added a new dimension. So my husband is, at this moment, fully feminised and only answers to his more feminine middle name of Lesley. His mother and I both felt it best as we thought he needed reminding of his subservient role in life. He had always been disrespectful to women and is very immature and now knows he needs to be treated like a girl to combat this. He sometimes gets upset at having to be a girl. I say a girl as that is currently how he is punished, like a naughty little girl. He wares more traditionally little girls clothes than ladies clothes. During the day he is dressed in pink frilly knickers or pink cotton panties with matching training bra, even when he is out shopping in his male clothes. If I have him in a dress then a full silk petticoat is worn underneath. He has to wear tights or ankle socks as well and now his hair has grown I often pull it into a pony tail with a pink ribbon. If he is being punished as a little girl then I will dress him at night as well, in a baby doll nightie, nappy and pink plastic pants. He does get very upset at being nappied but I always explain to him that it is best and give him a kiss on head if he is a good girl while he is changed. His mother often feels more prolonged nappy punishment is required and was very happy to see her son hanging up his pink plastic pants the other day. It was sissy Lesley's mummy that started him on petticoat punishment years ago and she is such a forceful help and a powerful shoulder to lean on.

While my husband is petticoated this way I do feel his behaviour improves. He seems much more polite, attentive, helpful and easy to subdue. My little sissy girl could even be called cute! I do stress to him the importance of continued and regular petticoat punishment now and at first he became angry at the idea. Now he has started to show a positive response to his petticoat punishment we openly talk about his day and how he feels as a girl. Why is it now I have my little girl, that I finally get a proper conversation! He tells me he likes his petticoats, so he has a wide range of silk and satin petticoats now. Some are just plain slips, others are more layered or ruffled. Some days he does ask to wear men's clothes. I often refuse, but if he explains why he has to, and it is a valid reason, then I let him. However I am more open to him requesting to be treated as a woman as a change from being treated as a little girl. I have started to let him buy more grown woman's clothes, underwear mainly. He likes the more sexy or feminine silkier underwear I believe. So he is currently preparing himself for bed, changing into a black silk satin chemise with pretty lace trim I made him buy. He even asked me politely if he could wear his matching black silk satin French knickers as well. I refused. He will not be needing underwear tonight. He knows by now what this means, I'll be punishing him.

Tonight I will be treating him as a grown woman. As I said, this is a nice break from him being treated like a silly, naughty, little girl. I enjoy making him understand how wonderful it is being a woman. It pleases me that he has started to enjoy wearing sexy, seductive knickers and stylish sensual night ware. I even recently made him wax his legs. He did not argue at this suggestion. He now spends the same time as me shaving his body and moisturising. It was he that then suggested he could now wear lighter tights and he bought himself two pairs of cream shear stockings with a white lace trim. He says he loves the feel of his stockings against his shaved skin and has promised to never grow his hair again. He even has a basque and a corset, but is only allowed to wear them if he is required to join me in bed.

This more adult punishment led me to decide to use my vibrator on him. I had him dress all day, in a little girls dress and near to bed time told him to dress in his adult woman's clothes. We discussed how this made him feel and I explained that being a woman was more than just clothes, it was about feeling like a woman. I then asked him to remove his knickers. He thought I was going to nappy him, but instead I bent him over and spanked his bare bottom before pulling out one of my smaller vibrators. He did look quite worried when I turned it on and tried to stand up. I simply pushed his head back down with all my weight on his back and shouted for him to stay still. This was enough for me to be able to gently insert my vibrator. I did feel bad at first as he started to cry, but after a small amount of time he became much more quiet and actually moaned. That's when I stopped. I gave him a taster for being taken like a woman and I could see the disappointment in his face when I stopped. This was a surprising outcome.

Before this incident I had noticed he was still showing signs of resistance to his petticoating. But since using my vibrator on him he has shown a much more feminine outlook, he now keeps on asking when he can be a woman again. He has willingly agreed to wearing knickers and bras or camisoles all the time. He has become so polite and constantly asks me if he is doing the right thing. He even asks if he needs punishment now and goes and gets what is required if I feel that punishment is needed. Our relationship is more loving but controlled now. My husband understands his housemaid role and that I am the master.

My girl friends are great as well. Some very close ones know of my husbands forced feminisation, others don't see him so just know about our sporadic sex life. Some did suggest I maybe find a lover, but I tend to agree with you Auntie Helga, that my sissy husband should be allowed sex once in a while. I don't mind having sex just once a month, I think. Also it has been suggested to me, by the ones that know sissy Lesley that maybe I should treat him more like the woman in our relationship and let him experience a man himself. This I ma not sure of, but I am thinking of making him maybe experience going out as a woman, in public.

Lots of regards for a great website that is an inspiration.

Mrs London

Thank you for your letter Mrs London. Well done and it is you who are an inspiration to so many of our loyal readers, but thank you for the compliment. By taking control, and lets note your husband's obedience in this, I'm sure you're both well on your way to a long and very happy marriage.

Helga